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Relationships are hard. It takes a lot to handle and nurture a relationship. Whether your relationship is romantic, blood, friendship, or just acquaintanceship, it requires dedication, focus, and an honest will to give what the relationship requires.

10 Most Important Things In A Relationship

Relationships are hard. It takes a lot to handle and nurture a relationship. Whether your relationship is romantic, blood, friendship, or just acquaintanceship, it requires dedication, focus, and an honest will to give what the relationship requires.

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People think relationships are only about love. And, you will get a million pieces of advice on how to work on your relationships. But, some things hold the heart of any relationship. Somethings that are far above love and affection.

Here are the 10 most important things in any relationship:

 

1. Communication is key

It might sound cliche and old school. But it cannot be more true that communication is really the key to a good and healthy relationship. Healthy communication is not just about words and viewpoints. It’s also about body language, expressions, and tone you talk in. Your verbal and non-verbal communication can tell a person how you feel about them. Without effective and efficient communication, a relationship cannot survive.

These are a few points you should keep in mind while communicating:

  • Take some time out to communicate with the other person. Attention and good eye contact really serve effective and efficient communication.
  • Listen! You have to listen as well to properly process and understand what the other person means.
  • Have an open mindset. Don’t restrict the other person through your words or body language which may make them defensive or reserved.
  • Be focus and attentive towards the other person. Distracting actions or unattentive may put off your communication.
  • Be positive and assertive in your responses. Even if you are about to give tough feedback. Be sure to frame it with positive words and positive body language.

 

2. Respect to get respect

Respect means to understand that the other person is a whole and not just a means or a part of you. They have their own personality. Their own viewpoints and understanding about life.

Respect is a solid pillar of a healthy relationship. And it’s easy said than done. Telling someone that you respect them is one thing but showing respect is a whole other story. Like communication, respect is also verbal and non-verbal. Treat others like you want to be treated. Similarly, respect the other person like you would expect to be respected and heard. Nobody likes to be disrespected or ignored.

 

3. Trust and prosper

Can you think about surviving in a relationship where you cannot trust the other person?

Trust is an essential cornerstone of any relationship which is always a little shaky. It requires to be built and maintained continuously. Trust is the faith that you can rely on the other person. Believing in the fact that they will stay loyal and you can find your safe-place with them and vice versa.

Here are a few important points to build and maintain trust in your relationship:

  • Be mindful of your actions and words
  • Admit to your mistakes and learn to forgive
  • Create and maintain an open and safe environment for the other person to confide in you
  • Stay present and attentive when you are communicating
  • Restrain the judgemental comments and body postures
  • Keep the secrets and support when you need to
  • Be there physically and emotionally

 

4. Honesty is sometimes the best policy

Being honest about oneself is a huge task to accomplish. We often pretend in front of people to increase our likeability. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s human nature.

When it comes to a close relationship, who you wish to nurture and confide in. Honesty can help you build trust. As honesty and rust go hand in hand. You should be able to be yourself when you are around your partner. Being true and honest about what you feel and where you stand.

But keep in mind that honesty can make or break your relationship. There might be things which are better off with you. Oversharing is often not the best thing in a relationship. If a thing doesn’t affect your relationship and you don’t mean to share it. Then you should keep it in. For some other time maybe!

 

5. Happiness is a necessity

Happiness is different for everyone like every relationship is different. It is not fixed and might change with time and circumstances. What’s important to understand is that it might mean having fun for you but might be something completely different for the other. In a nutshell, a happy relationship is when the expectations, desires, wants and needs are all met at some level.

Now you may ask if happiness is different for everyone what you can on your part to ensure happiness in your relationship. This is what you need to do:

  • Put in your best efforts to understand the other person
  • Do little things that make them happy
  • show loving and caring gestures to your loved ones
  • Celebrate your time together
  • Appreciate what you have together and keep things revived
  • Build a healthy communication system

 

6. Guard your Loyalty

Being loyal to someone means guarding their secrets, staying faithful no matter what, and sticking to your word in every situation.

Loyalty is a tough one to conquer. You will get several enticing situations in life where you would want to go the other way. Sometimes you might even try to tell yourself it isn’t a big deal. Or, this wouldn’t affect my loyalty.

But remember, if you are doubtful about your loyalty then you are breaching it. Your inner self will tell you if you are on the wrong path. Be true to yourself and your relationship.

 

7. Partnership is an upgrade

If you have a common goal and commitment to your relationship then you have a partnership. It doesn’t necessarily have to in an intimate relationship. A relationship with your friends and siblings can also have a partnership.

Partnership requires quality time and effort to be invested regularly. When your relationship springs into a strong partnership. You would easily walk through your differences and work on making your connection even stronger.

The trust and communication in your relationship become spotless. You know that you can rely on and confide in the other person. Sometimes even a single look does the job.

You can think of partnership as a level up of any relationship.

 

8. Compromise is a common ground

People often think of compromise as a negative aspect of being in a relationship. However, that’s not the case. Compromise is a bridge that you have to cross often to get to Greenland of relationship. It is not about giving up something you like or leaving a thing that’s close to your heart.

Compromise is about focusing on the bigger picture of your relationship. And coming towards a mutual understanding of what you would like to give or take. When you care about the other person and wish to be with them, compromise will not sound negative. It is rather an investment you do in your relationship.

There will be days where you will have opposite opinions. One or the other has to compromise to continue to nurture the relationship.

There will be days when the real-life will not meet the expectations and perceptions about life. You both will have to come to a common ground. Where you can settle your differences and walk together.

 

9. Safety is the core level

It is the core foundation of any relationship. You wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where you feel threatened or violated. Safety can be felt physically and even emotionally. You should be able to share your raw feelings and vulnerabilities.

You should feel safe when around the other person. And should be able to be your true self without hesitation and fear of judgments.

A safe and healthy relationship is the one where you can say what you feel and do as you please. Of course in the best interest of the relationship and not for your own self.

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However, if there is an abuse of any kind whether physical, emotional, verbal, or economic, the relationship doesn’t stand on solid grounds. And soon it will reach its end.

 

10. Independence of the entities

Lastly, but surely not least is independence. It doesn’t mean to spend your time alone and do as you like. Rather it’s more so about being able to do what you like while being in the relationship.

Both parties in any relationship are sole entities.  Each has its own life lessons and experiences. They have all the right to pursue their career, their liking, disliking, and live their life like they wish to.

Of course, there will be compromises but it’s completely each one their decision to either make the compromise or not. You should understand and respect that.