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Body positivity has started taking a toll on people’s mental health now. With time everything becomes a little twisted. The same is the case with body positivity movement. I am sure we all have heard about body positivity or body confidence at least once in the last few days.

Is Body Positivity Normalizing Unhealthy Bodies and Lifestyle?

Body positivity has started taking a toll on people’s mental health now. With time everything becomes a little twisted. The same is the case with body positivity movement. I am sure we all have heard about body positivity or body confidence at least once in the last few days.

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Earlier when “ideal bodies” were defined as size zero, fair skin, and colored eyes, it caused a major spike in eating disorders, surgeries, Botox, body negativity, beauty treatments, and several other physical and mental issues, especially in women. Hence came forward the Body Positivity Movement to rescue the drowning confidence in women.

What is Body Positivity Movement?

Body positivity referred to accepting and loving your real body. No matter the size, shape, color, or features. The biggest impact was on the people with plus-sized bodies, dark skin, and “average features”. The latter became more and more conscious about themselves plus the world wasn’t kind either.

The body positivity movement was a solid idea to stop women from comparing themselves to the celebrities or the perfect body types they see on screen, around them, or what the world told them “idealistic bodies” were. Rather work on themselves to become healthy and not anorexic.

Today, as social media has increased, the consciousness about one’s body and figure has scaled beyond limits. Everyone wants to look A-perfect for their gram or youtube videos. Even though multiple celebrities and influencers are the pole bearers for body positivity, still the focus has shifted from what it used to be.

Toxic Body Positivity or just Toxic Positivity???

Toxic Positivity implies that you should always have a positive mindset regardless of how the circumstances are. Well on paper it looks inspirational while in reality, it’s inhuman. Because you cannot be positive all the time. It separates the emotions from any situation. Which isn’t possible for a human.

The toxic body positivity escalated, even more, when a few people of the body positivity movement started to criticize others who were trying to lose weight, getting surgeries, or other cosmetical procedures done to improve their body features.

Their counter-argument is that everybody should love their body as it is and the ones who are doing otherwise are trying to be someone else. aren’t body-positive, and they are trying to disrespect millions of people who are trying to be body-positive.

The argument isn’t backed by any logical reasons but just a social pressure to love your body despite the trauma you might be going through and be happy about it. Rather than appreciate your body and focus on being healthy. Hence body positivity began to normalize unhealthy bodies and lifestyles.

Body Positivity Today – Body Acceptance

The reality has just been sugar-coated today. People still hate their bodies or parts of them. I mean who is perfect? But they are forced to pose as they love their bodies as they are.

It’s toxic in its roots. There is much more than just loving your body as it is. Body acceptance isn’t about accepting your body even though you can’t seem to look at yourself in the mirror. It’s about how you feel about yourself and accepting that.

If you feel perfect being in your skin then you do you boo. But if you aren’t happy, struggling mentally, or physically then you have all the options in the world to become what you aspire.

Gladly, the new generation of body activists are open to the idea of body acceptance and minding their own business. But there are still those old folks who wouldn’t think twice before interfering in your life. Be bold about your choices and do as you please as long as you stay on the healthy radar.

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What Can You Really Do?

The extremes of body positivity should better be avoided. You shouldn’t want to undergo extreme treatments to look a certain way neither you should become ignorant of your feelings and live your time.

The reason why people hate their bodies is much deep-rooted than one can imagine. People have several reasons to hate their bodies, which might be invalid, but logical. The decades of well-funded sexism and social pressures have played a vital part in making people feel conscious about their bodies. Several are made to feel guilty for either wanting to change their body or living in a body that doesn’t fit.

This shouldn’t be the way. Like I said, It’s your life and your body. Today, more than anything, people are shamed for their bodies. If you feel uncomfortable in a big body then start a diet, head to the gym, and work on yourself. Remember that obesity is not something you should boast about. As long as you are on the healthy and safe radar, everything should be fine.

Our Guest On Body Acceptance And Body Positivity

One of the few people I know who have won their way through the body acceptance and body positivity journey is Fakeha Umair Khan. She has dealt with every criticism you can think about a person would get with a bigger body. Nonetheless, she worked on herself for an entire year and became a much healthier and happier person.

Fakeha is also an upcoming influencer on Instagram who encourages people, especially the ones who are trying to shed some weight. She educates on how you can accept your body and become a better version of yourself. She is quite a fashionista as well and loves to showcase her amazing sense of style.

Fakeha is an inspiration for many. And when she approached me to write for my blog. I was more than happy to share her story with my readers. Please do follow her on her social account and send lots of love. Here’s what she shared…

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“The problem isn’t with your body, the problem is what you think of it.. and what you think of yourself”

 

The above-mentioned quote is not just a reference for motivational purposes but it’s a referral for all those individuals who consider that body confidence only comes when you struggle to achieve body image as per society standards.

I want to share with you how you can learn to embrace your body, how to maintain yourself healthily, and deal with the social pressures that come with it.

But first,

What defines body positivity for me… 

It is about loving yourself, accepting, and appreciating the whole of one’s body. It’s not just focusing on the outer layers but also how you are as a person from the inside. The confidence from inside plays a vital role in embracing yourself from inside/out.

Understanding Body negativity

Many of us struggle due to the lack of understanding about self-satisfaction that leads to body negativity.  They see their body doesn’t match the ideal description. Hence the hatred for their body kicks in making the people unhappy and dissatisfied with their body and appearance.

The body negativity approach doesn’t stop here. The people who deal with this kind of negativity never stop comparing themselves to others. Their constant urge to compare themselves pulls them closer and closer to lack of confidence, stress, anxiety, loneliness, and several other problems.

People with negative body image not only lack personality development issues but pursue unnecessary struggles such as weight loss surgeries and medications.

Here I would like to add that body image /confidence/positivity is not only referring to body size but to parts of the body too!! E.g. some are conscious about having a nose job done via surgeries which not always or can be successful and can put you in a more coarse position.

Where and how people become body-negative?

From personal experience, body negativity never occurs on its own. There is always an external force that drives it in your life.  It may be from friends, family, society, culture, or media especially social media which is the core of conveying the message of body negativity or positivity.

It is our responsibility to play a key role in encouraging people from the very beginning of their body-related journey. We should be supportive and help them understand that the only “ideal” body type is a body that is healthy inside-out. Regardless of the numbers, you have on the weighing scale.

Plus, the pressure from the media is getting bigger by the day. The majority of the media and fashion industry still discriminates a lot. Whether it’s the size, ability, gender orientation, and even age. The impact that it is casting is enough for the people to start hiding.  Many have stopped sharing about how they feel about their bodies and the struggles they are going through to keep their peace away from the criticisms they face for how they look.

How To Become Body Confident/Positive:

I don’t want to tell you about what the books say. I will tell you what really works and has worked for me and many other people I know. Firstly, let’s get into the core of how to have confidence and establish a strong belief that will help you to feel more positive about yourself.

  1. Audit your social circle. Get rid of toxic people and spend more time with people who have a more positive approach towards you.
  2. It may sound silly, but practicing self-talk and setting positive affirmations will push your mindset towards more assertive thinking e.g. my skin is fresh and glowing rather my skin is dull and dark.
  3. Wear clothes that you feel are comfortable rather than trying too hard to make a fashion statement you aren’t sure about.
  4. Work on your self-care. Your body is not the only component that defines beauty and well-being.
  5. Give your body the empowerment to laugh, dance, and create.
  6. Make a list of things you like and are good at. Focus on your strengths and work towards those.
  7. If you have a social media presence then know that there will be trolls. Sometimes more than you can comprehend. But prepare yourself to deal with them. The only way to shut the trolls is to continue to do what you love and know that’s it’s nothing wrong.
  8. Treat yourself often. Invest in yourself by treating yourself as the person you love the most. Do things you like even if it’s as little as just reading a book, getting a haircut, walk in the park, or buying a luxury bag.
  9. Aim towards a healthy lifestyle. Trying to be comfortable when your body is constantly telling you otherwise is unjust. Eat healthily, meditate, exercise, and invest in self-care often for a healthier and happier lifestyle.

Making tiny changes towards a positive body image will enhance not only confidence but will help in developing a strong personality that inspires others. Focus on yourself first and take the negative criticism as a grain of salt.

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