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At the ground level, a healthy relationship means that you are happy and satisfied with your relationship. But it is not as easy as it sounds. Happiness and satisfaction are different for every individual. When you look deep into the mechanics of a healthy relationship you will find a few common signs.

What Healthy Relationship Means – 10 Things You Should Do!

At the ground level, a healthy relationship means that you are happy and satisfied with your relationship. But it is not as easy as it sounds. Happiness and satisfaction are different for every individual. When you look deep into the mechanics of a healthy relationship you will find a few common signs.

healthy relationship

 

Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

  1. The communication is thorough. The partners can talk to each other and solve their issues with effective communication
  2. The partners are respectful of each other’s believes, opinions, feelings, needs, and life choices.
  3. Trust in the relationship is well-established.
  4. Standards are the same for both. They both treat each other as
  5. The boundaries in the relationship are in place. One doesn’t force the other to do what they aren’t comfortable with.
  6. Activities they share are consensual. And they can openly discuss what they aren’t comfortable about
  7. The partners support each other without any jealously, biases or ego.

Several pieces of research have also shown that healthy relationships lead to less stress and more happiness. Now happiness is also a broad term. But by the gist of it, a healthy relationship thrives on what makes the people in the relationship happy.

 

How To Make The Relationship Happy And Healthy?

Building a happy and healthy relationship takes effort and time. And it also may not work sometimes after doing all. The most important thing about a relationship is that every feeling and every pillar is interconnected. One goes down, it is hard to stand back up like before.

However, issues are normal for any relationship. They are often healthy. But when the issues get big enough to hit the 10 founding pillars of your relationship, then things begin to get messy.

So how can you make your relationship healthier and avoid making the mistakes that might hurt your relationship?

Here are some tips to help you get started. Whether you are dealing with losing the relationship charm, moving towards the next stage of your relationship, or trying to recover from a betrayal.

 

1. Open and Clear Communication

Partners in a healthy relationship should be able to talk about literally anything. They should be comfortable in sharing their secrets, gossip, talk about serious, or random things in life. I think I have said enough in my other articles as well, that communication is key. A relationship cannot survive without effective communication.

Also, communication is a two-way street. If you expect your partner to listen to you then you have to reciprocate the effort by being present when your partner is talking to you. And don’t just listen but show that you are interested in maintaining eye contact, asking questions, and sharing how can you help.

 

2. Trust, Honesty, and Integrity

A relationship cannot flourish in the absence of trust. Don’t do anything that you know may involve a breach of trust, honesty, and integrity. The trust in your relationship should be strong enough that when you are apart, you don’t have to worry about your partner will lie or cheat on you.

A healthy relationship with trust also makes you feel safe. You know that the person has your best interests at heart and will not hurt you in any way. Either emotionally, mentally, or physically you feel that you have a secure ground with your partner.

 

3. Realistic Expectations

Everyone has flaws. You do, I do, and everyone does. Expecting that your partner should an A-plus in everything is unrealistic. That not only hurts you because of your high standards but it overburdens your partner as well.

Slowly, your relationship will become either fake or dead. Rather than putting on unrealistic expectations. Try to accept and cherish what you have. It doesn’t mean settling for less. It means being happy with your partner and then works on getting better.

Nothing is impossible. People change, grow, and develop. Love can solve most problems if you deal with the problem with love and not criticism.

 

4. Fight Fair

Having conflicts in a relationship is a very common thing. It doesn’t mean that you are done with each other. It only means you both disagree about something. Follow these tips to resolve a conflict like a sane person.

  • Never talk when you cannot control your emotions. Always cool down before starting the conversation. Talking with heavy emotions may make you say things that you might not mean to say and may regret later.
  • Do not start the blame game. Instead, share how you feel and what you want without blaming your partner. Using “I statement” can really help inefficient communication. For example, I felt overburdened when you couldn’t do your part of the chores rather than saying; you didn’t do your chores and then I had to do it all by myself.
  • Attack the problem and not the person. Try to be factual rather than being judgemental.
  • Don’t take the conversation elsewhere by reminding the other person what they did 5 months ago. Focus on the current problem and how you can solve it.
  • Apologize and take responsibility if you have done something wrong. There is nothing wrong or egoistic in admitting your mistake.
  • Don’t use statements like “you always do this” or “you never do this”. These statements are derogatory and do not solve the problem.
  • Know that some mistakes can’t be forgotten and not every problem can be solved. You both are different entities and you have your own personalities. Try to figure out what you can accept and what is unacceptable.
  • Choose your fights. Not everything is worth fighting for. Although it might seem unnecessary to some but compromise is very important in relationships.

 

5. Show Curiosity

The mere reason that you are together is that you liked the way your partner was when you first started dating. Try to remember the first stage of your love when you wanted to know everything about your partner.

Apply the same curiosity today if you are looking to have a healthy relationship. Curiosity shows that you are still interested in their life and you are not fixated on who your partner use to be. Talk about their feelings, thoughts, goals, and concerns.

Curiosity means that you want to be there with them and watch them grow and be successful. It also means that you are willing to work on a healthy relationship and evolve with them.

 

6. Acts of Kindness

Showing your partner that you care can also be through acts of kindness. Taking care of the tiny little details will pull you both together and further strengthened your relationship. It doesn’t have to be large and impactful. Your act can be the most unnoticeable one and still be impactful.

Like, changing your partner’s empty shampoo bottle with a new one without them asking. Or get your partner flowers without any occasion. All these little acts of kindness show that you are so in love and you care about everything that surrounds them. These things might not look or feel worthy at first. But it is the courtesy of these small acts that push the relationship forward.

 

7. Take Some Time Apart

Most people think that spending every second together is a sign of a healthy relationship. But it is not true. Understand that you are two different people. You both have your own liking, disliking, needs, commitments, and living requirements.

Where you should prioritize spending quality time with your partner, but you also need some time apart. It is good for the health of your relationship and your mental well-being. Maybe you take some time to relax, go for a run, see a friend, or pursue a hobby. And allow your partner to do the same.

I always suggest being your own person and you need some time apart to do that. You shouldn’t feel guilty for taking some time for yourself and neither you should create a fuss when your partner takes some time for themselves.

 

8. Be Playful

Nobody wants to be in a dry and boring relationship. To bring life to your relationship, share lighter moments with your partner where you can laugh together, joke around, make time for fun, and do fun activities together.

Life is already very stressful, your relationship shouldn’t be the same. To maintain a healthy relationship, you should be able to share happy moments, relieve tension, and enjoy life together. Even if it means watching a comedy show, make healthy fun of each other, doing silly things together, or try new fun things together.

 

9. Physical Intimacy

People think physical intimacy only refers to sexual activities. While yes, a large portion of it does point towards sex but it also means respecting each other’s boundaries. A healthy relationship can also be the one where there is no sex at all. As long as you both agree on it and decide to be together.

Healthy intimacy also includes holding hands, hugging, cuddling, and sleeping together. Not everybody likes sex. For a healthy relationship, it is important to share a bonding and a physical connection.

Respect the fact that your partner may not be in the mood to indulge in physical intimacy. Women in general have lesser sexual desires than men. Work on building a strong relationship rather than focusing on other things.

 

10. Adaptability

A key to a healthy and growing relationship is adaptability. The couple should be able to adapt to the changes of life and each other. You might be ambitious while your partner may be a homebody. Embracing each other’s differences is important.

Every couple moves through the five stages of love. The dynamics of the relationship change over time. And only a few couples can make it through the third stage of love. This happens because the couples fail to adapt to the circumstances and the fact that life is always changing.

A healthy relationship is nurtured by the partners involved together. Whether life goes north or south, the partners should always stand by each other. Reliable support, trust, loyalty, honesty, compatibility, and teamwork are all part of being adaptable.

 

How Can You Tell If You Have A Healthy Relationship

If you still can’t understand that whether you are in a healthy relationship or not. Just ask yourself these questions and assess where you stand in your relationship.

  • Can I be myself in the relationship?
  • Is my life better now?
  • Do I accept my partner for what they are?
  • Does my partner encourage me to grow?
  • Do we treat each other as equals?
  • Are we looking for the same kind of relationship?
  • Do we share the same future goals for the relationship?
  • Does our time together have meaning?

If most of your answers are yes. Then you are in a strong and healthy relationship. If not then you have to either work on your relationship to make it healthier or decide for yourself if it is worth putting in the effort or not.

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